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Dandelion in a Ditch (a Fable)


Dandelion in a Ditch
(A Fable)

by Catherine Maven
1996 (Edited May 2018)

Once upon a time, there was a dandelion growing in a ditch, surrounded on all sides by dozens of her cousin-dandelions.  Warmed by sunshine, or tickled by rain, the dandelion was perfectly content. 
But then, in the course of one short day, everything changed.  Ten people walked by the ditch that day, and although Dandelion usually paid no attention to these transient beings, on this particular day she found herself forced to listen.
The first person who walked by stooped low enough to smell and stroke the dandelion.  The dandelion was unused to such personal attention, but it felt good.  The person said, "Oh, Dandelion!  You are my favourite spring flower!" 
Dandelion was amazed and pleased.  While a moment before, she had been just herself in a ditch, she now knew herself to be someone's favourite flower.  She pulled her stalk a little straighter and stretched herself as tall as she could.  She glowed with pride.
Not long after, though, the second person who walked by the ditch that day snorted, "Dandelions! Ugh! Why doesn't the City get rid of these ugly, disgusting weeds?!" 
"Oh, no!" thought Dandelion in horror.  "I'm not a favourite spring flower after all.  I'm really an ugly, disgusting weed."  And she began to wilt a bit right at that moment, her bright yellow bloom bending over in shame.
When the third person arrived, Dandelion held her breath – spring flower or disgusting weed?  But the third person cried happily, "Oh, look at these lovely greens!  They'll make a wonderful salad for dinner tonight! I can’t wait to eat them!"  
The person had just begun picking many of Dandelion's cousins and putting them in a basket when the fourth person joined the third and said, "Are you picking dandelions for wine?  No?  Well, you'd be amazed how much money you can get for dandelion wine!  I crush them myself at home."  And this person began to greedily grab handfuls of Dandelion's family.
Fortunately, neither of these people managed to harvest Dandelion, and when they were gone, she said to herself, a bit bemused, "Salad?  I'm good for salad?  Someone wants to eat me?" and "Wine?  What's that?  And money?  That person certainly thought dandelions were valuable, but I don't think they seemed as happy to collect my cousins as the one who wanted 'salad'." 
Now Dandelion knew she was valuable all right -- valuable enough to be eaten or crushed into wine!  Suddenly, she was afraid.  She didn't want to be valued in a way that destroyed her.
 The pickers had seemed oblivious to her family as simply dandelions in a ditch.   People only wanted her family members for what they could do with them.  She liked being important, but she wasn't sure she liked the reason. 
She was afraid to stand tall with pride for fear she'd be picked, and at the same time she was somehow ashamed that neither of the last two people had chosen to pick her.  Maybe if she stood a little taller, someone would want her?  She didn't know what to think.
The next three people to come by were quite a bit smaller than the ones before.  Two boys and a girl came together, giggling and pushing each other in a friendly fashion. 
"Oh, no!" cried the first boy.  "Dandelions! I'm al–al– ah-CHOO! –lergic to them.  Let's get out of here!"  
"I'm making that one sick," thought Dandelion sadly.  "What kind of monster am I?"
But then the other boy leaned into the ditch and snapped the head off of Dandelion's next-door neighbour.  "Here," he said to the girl, "Let me rub this under your chin.  If your chin turns yellow, it means you like butter." 
"Really?" the girl responded eagerly. 
"Try it!" the boy cried.
But Dandelion never got to know whether the little girl liked butter or not, because just then the children spotted a bee on Dandelion's head, screamed in fright, and raced away. 
As the bee fled the commotion in the opposite direction, Dandelion drooped with shock.  Her neighbour, so callously beheaded – was she as unimportant as that?  Did her life really mean so little?
She hardly had time to begin to consider the import of these events when two more children appeared along the road.  "Oh, dandelions!" cried one.  "Let's make necklaces!"  "Okay!" 
The girls sat down on the bank of the ditch a little way from Dandelion, where there were still members of her family growing.  Dandelion watched in horror as one after another, the dandelion stalks were broken from their bases.  She turned away, unable to watch.  But she was encouraged to turn back a few minutes later by the giggles and cries of delight issuing from the seated girls.
When she made herself look around, Dandelion was overcome with emotion.  One girl wore a dandelion-chain necklace and bracelet, and the other wore her dandelions as a crown of flowers in her beautiful hair.  They were busy admiring one another and crowing with glee. 
Their joy was infectious, and Dandelion's heart grew lighter.  If she had to be picked, please let it be by creatures as lovely as these, on whom the sunny yellow flowers glowed, as one girl said to the other,  ". . . more beautiful than the most expensive jewels in the world!"
As they left, Dandelion felt almost embarrassed by her own beauty.  Was it possible that she looked as lovely as her cousins adorning the child's head? 
Then she remembered being called an 'ugly, disgusting weed', and she grew even more confused.  "Can I really be so beautiful to one and so horrible to another?" she wondered.  "I must be a very complex creature to be capable of such contradictions.  Too bad I can't stop being a 'weed' and only be a 'jewel'." 
Now she began to experience self-hate for the first time.  If she had it in herself to be a 'weed', she could never be a perfect 'jewel'.  Perhaps that was why her cousins were gone and she remained.  "Nobody wants me," she sighed.  "Why am I alive at all?"  And she wilted into depression.
But the last person to come by that day was the very little boy who lived at the other end of the lawn which grew beside the ditch.  While his mother watched from the porch, the boy toddled up to the edge of the ditch and peered down.  "Wook, Mommy!" cried the little boy.  "Dandewion!"
In that simple statement, Dandelion suddenly found her answer.  Other people’s opinion of her was just that, their opinion.  She was who she was, and it was good enough for her.
            As the weeks went on, Dandelion practiced accepting herself in spite of, rather than because of, what others thought of her.  But she still felt helpless as she watched other flowers and plants in the ditch get picked or stepped on, admired or ignored. 
Do I always have to sit here and wait while others decide my fate?”  she cried to herself.  What choice do I have?”
Then, one day, it dawned on her.  She was a Dandy Lion – she had the right to stick up for herself, to defend herself against harm, to live in peace and safety and joy. 
In that moment, she straightened up to her full height, and ruffled her yellow petals out like the mane of a lion, and felt courage grow inside her like armour.  And you know, although other plants in that ditch got picked, or trodden down, or carelessly broken in their primes, somehow, every harm passed her by, and Dandelion lived a full, content life.

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THE END


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